Timeline for Is it rude to ask if the food contains pork or alcohol?
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| Jan 1, 2016 at 5:10 | comment | added | Pharap | @AndrewGrimm Would have been interesting to book two tables and see who sits at which tables. In all fairness he may have had a deeper reason such as him or someone close to him having an alcohol problem and it reminding him. Also, you can't always judge a person by their political stance. | |
| Dec 30, 2015 at 7:55 | comment | added | WoJ | @Freedo: (background: atheist and will-eat-all-that-stays-in-my-plate here). I can understand that some people find some food disgusting and would prefer not to eat rather than witness that. This can be pork, alcohol, cheese, dogs, reptiles, humans, whatever. My son has an almost vomit reaction to cheese (and yes, we are French...) and we do not force him to look at us when we eat some. There is a difference between "you are impure/an animal/[insert insult here] for eating [insert food here]" and "due to my upbringing/culture, looking at [insert food] being eaten is just too much" | |
| Dec 29, 2015 at 22:19 | comment | added | Golden Cuy | A colleague at a previous job was rather conservative (eg wouldn't shake women's hands) and he didn't want anyone drinking alcohol on the same table as him. I remember a coworker noting behind his back that she found that weird. And most people at that workplace were reasonably left-wing. | |
| Dec 29, 2015 at 18:26 | comment | added | Sam Hosseini | I'd ask the opposite question, for the people who think it's not rude not to join the table if he's gonna drink alcohol. "I'm sorry but if you happen to be a muslim and eat halal food, I'd regret to inform you that I would decline your offer." You can tolerate the intolerance, your choice, but accept it as it is please. | |
| Dec 29, 2015 at 11:27 | comment | added | falsedot | while the example mentions religion, that's just one of the reasons someone might prefer if others did not consume a certain item - and that is, in my view, the main point of the answer. it could have been an allergy, alcoholism or even a matter of finding the odour of it really offensive (surströmming?) | |
| Dec 28, 2015 at 20:07 | comment | added | Ivan | This is the most gentlemanly and thoughtful invitation to dinner I've ever seen discussed on SE. It reads like a Sir Richard Burton travelogue. And then I read the first comment... | |
| Dec 28, 2015 at 1:46 | comment | added | phoog | @CarlWitthoft the conversation is in the context of a private home invitation. If two people have incompatible religious views then something else has to give. Perhaps the social occasion becomes something other than a meal. Perhaps the friendship falls apart. But to say it is unacceptable to put restrictions on others is short sighted. All societies restrict public behavior. | |
| Dec 28, 2015 at 1:41 | comment | added | Carl Witthoft | @phoog Look at it this way: what if you respond that your religion requires a drink of alcohol (by everyone) with dinner. Who is going to give up whose religious rules then? It is absolutely unacceptable to put restrictions on others in a public place. (Obviously there won't be, e.g., any bacon in a Jewish temple meal) | |
| Dec 27, 2015 at 16:25 | comment | added | Davor | @Ben - I'd agree that it is not rude, it's actually terrifying. Religious zealots who can't tolerate even seeing other people eat food they dislike are terrifying. | |
| Dec 26, 2015 at 10:02 | comment | added | Ben | It's rude to impose restrictions like this at the last minute @Freedo, it's not rude to politely inform your host in advance that you have certain restrictions and give them the option of working with your restrictions or saying "sorry, there will be alcohol" etc. | |
| Dec 26, 2015 at 4:47 | comment | added | phoog | @Freedo Nobody is pretending it's not rude. Many people just happen to be of the opinion that it's not rude. These people disagree with you. You are accusing someone with whom you disagree of being disingenuous, and that is rude. | |
| Dec 25, 2015 at 21:06 | comment | added | Freedo | I would never invite(or be friend) of someone who can't tolerate other people in the table drinking or eating pork. I don't like people who think they can impose their faith on others. So don't pretend is not rude to try to stop others to have their alcohol or pork | |
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| Dec 25, 2015 at 20:37 | history | answered | Viktor Toth | CC BY-SA 3.0 |