Timeline for How can I deal with people asking to switch seats with me on a plane?
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| Nov 15, 2016 at 15:31 | comment | added | Jack Aidley | +1, mostly because you've answered the question without casting needless aspersions on people who want to switch seats. | |
| Oct 31, 2016 at 19:14 | comment | added | A E | @BrianDHall is right, "No thank you" (in a situation where actually they want something from you and so you have nothing to thank them for really) can work very well. | |
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| Jun 7, 2015 at 11:51 | comment | added | CGCampbell | @JoeBlow OK. I will bow to your knowledge, as I have neither experience as an U/M, or sending an U/M on a trip. That was just why I didn't suggest going to the crew. Fear that the crew would side with the rude pax and not the minor. | |
| Jun 7, 2015 at 11:24 | comment | added | CGCampbell | As a minor child flying alone ( in a so called Western country (European/American)) the child is the responsibility of the airline and will have been assigned an airline steward/attendant as a responsible adult, ensuring the child is seated, etc. (as far as I understand it...I've never traveled as a minor unaccompanied) If that steward says "move" then the child has to move. I was trying to suggest that the OP (still a minor) try to avoid being directed to do so by authority. (Since this is India, I don't know if it is the same or not) | |
| Jun 7, 2015 at 11:20 | comment | added | CGCampbell | @JoeBlow I haven't agreed with a lot of your comments before, but this one makes a lot of sense. The reason I hesitated to go in that direction was this: if he were 6, let's say, the rude pax wouldn't even talk to him, he'd go directly to the attendant responsible for him. Since he's 16, he's at the cusp of being responsible for himself. That pax might still be able to go to the attendant and suggest that the minor be moved. If the attendant resp for him says 'move' then the OP is in a worse position. If he takes resp for himself, that keeps the resp adult (steward, etc) out of it. | |
| Jun 7, 2015 at 5:38 | comment | added | Fattie | CG, since you have the top answer. An overwhelming fact here is that Vedant has mentioned, he prefers not to call for a crew member. This is a huge mistake. i think the number one thing you tell younger people, who must fly alone, is do not hesitate to call for a crew member, reflexively, for any reason whatsoever, if anyone else tries to get involved with you for any reason. It's absolutely critical. And even though you're 16, Vedant, not a little kid, you should do this FOR SURE. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 21:28 | comment | added | Joe | This is a very good answer. The core of this is do not present your reasons: presenting reasons gives someone something to argue with. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 18:23 | comment | added | the_lotus | @VedantChandra this is also true for much of all other aspect of your live. This isn't like your parents asking you to move "or else" and "don't talk back to me". | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 17:42 | comment | added | R.. GitHub STOP HELPING ICE | @Willeke's comment is spot-on. "No" is always an acceptable response to requests, and anyone who treats someone (especially a minor) who says "no" as if they were being rude is a very rude person themselves. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 16:06 | comment | added | BrianH | I find a big enthusiastic smile with "no thanks!" works well, especially when someone wasn't really asking properly or being polite. "Please accept this flower from..." no thanks, but thanksomuchhaveagreatdayanyway! It doesn't make you feel bad and it tends to bewilder people who were being rude. It also provides a wonderful contrast if they get pushy, when you drop the smile and look directly at them with a flat "no...thank...you..." - it shows you are awful nice and polite, and if they push it that is going to wear off in a hurry and you aren't a push over, so kick rocks. Works 99%! | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:54 | comment | added | JoErNanO♦ | Even if it is perceived as rude, do you care? After all, your safety and comfort come first than that of pushy strangers on a plane. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:53 | vote | accept | Vedant Chandra | ||
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:48 | comment | added | Willeke♦ | I have always learned that any question simple can be answered by Yes, No or Maybe. And if you say No the other has to respect it. They may not like it but they could have booked a special seat themselves, so I agree. Say NO. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:36 | comment | added | CGCampbell | Flying is (for some) an uncomfortable experience. For many others, it is borderline traumatic. NEVER believe that anything you personally experience, or feel, while flying (especially commercially) is silly. It is not rude to turn down a request. In fact, if the requester was doing anything but politely requesting, they were the rude ones. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:30 | history | edited | CGCampbell | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:30 | comment | added | Vedant Chandra | Seeing such a simple answer, I suppose my question was a little silly. I just needed validation that saying this isn't rude I suppose :) Thank you! | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:29 | history | answered | CGCampbell | CC BY-SA 3.0 |