Contrary to popular belief, going back to your home country indeed _does not_ make you lose your refugee status. Not in Germany at least. Unluckily, as I personally have to say, with all respect to your personal loss

The BAMF recently (4 months ago) reported that people with refugee status going back on visits to their home lands is a phenomenon that is not at all unusual, and there is still no legal procedure for this. They explicitly stated that while they might revoke someone's individual status (probably if the trip is for fighting in war, for going to a terror training camp or such a thing?), going back to one's home country as such is generally _not_ a reason.