Tipping in a restaurant is simple enough, you give 0-20% depending on country, city and how good the service is. You are already handing someone money, so saying keep the change, or ask for 10 euros back instead of 15 is easy.

Tipping for services that don't include money in the first place feels awkward to me. I feel like I'm giving pocket money to a kid, and I feel like I'm insulting them.

How would you tip a hotel porter, a concierge our someone else, where money is not already in the mix? Do you just take a few euros from your wallet and hand it to them?

Note: I'm not asking about how much I should tip, I'm asking about how I should do it, and what I should say when doing it.

Although this question is a general one, I might mention that I'm in Italy at the moment (where tipping is not as common (or expected) as in the US).

  • I'm not sure what kind of answer you expect. In the U.S., it's not awkward in the slightest. It's completely unexceptional, for example, for a bellhop to carry your bags to your room, then wait patiently while you dig through your wallet to fish out a few bills to hand them. If that moment is awkward to you, just count out the amount ahead of time and put it in your pocket, likewise for your caddy, house movers, or limo driver. Only a few scenarios, like the officiant at your wedding, have a set etiquette.
    – choster
    May 23, 2017 at 14:47

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When preparing for travel, I always go to the bank to get a collection of $5 and $1 bills since I only carry plastic normally. When I know I'll be interacting with service positions, I'll take out the cash in advance to have it in a separate pocket. I do this when I'm travelling to the hotel, waiting in line somewhere, in the elevator, etc. as long as I'm not directly being watched by the person I'll be tipping.

After they perform their service, they'll almost always ask "is there anything else I can do for you?" or something similar, which has a dual purpose as a social signal that they are pausing for you to give them a tip. I'll make some quick small talk ("best place for pizza/steak/whatever?" or "where's the pool?"), thank them for their help while extending my dominant hand for a handshake and handing them folded bills (usually folded twice into a thin rectangle) with my other hand with the bills sticking about 3/4 of the way out so they can easily take it.

If your interaction is very brief (valet opening the car door upon departure) then simply handing the cash in the same manner as above while saying "thank you" is appropriate. You can also try 'palming' the cash by placing it inside your hand while extending it for a handshake, but this works better in the movies as it's prone to fall out, not be taken, or otherwise fail. I once tried to be slick and slide cash into the breast pocket of a porter's shirt, but they were clearly uncomfortable and I now believe that's another movies-only maneuver.

Edited note: If you aren't as nervous about social situations as I am and won't think about preparing your tips in advance, it should be just as acceptable to quickly pull out your wallet while making some short conversation and simply hand the cash over while thanking them. I don't know why, but folding the bills at least once if not twice along the long edge (cutting the length in half) makes it easier/more acceptable to give a tip. If you don't mind rounding up, you could also just keep a few $5 or $10s in your pocket (all the same denomination) so you can more easily pull out the right quantity and pass it over without having to pull out an entire wallet or count out bills. Just don't ask for change.

  • I'm a bit surprised at that- I would never think of shaking hands with a porter (or a waitress or a valet or the person at check-in). But then I'm a Canadian, so maybe it varies. May 23, 2017 at 17:52
  • @SpehroPefhany I'm not sure how common it is, but I'm not the most socially knowledgeable person so I do it in an attempt to seem more human. I won't do a handshake for something like the valet where we interact for 10 seconds, but a porter usually arranges bags, gets out a few of the suitcase stands, gives a walkthrough of the room, etc. so the interaction is long enough that it seems OK. I'll give a handshake at certain restaurants where I've developed a rapport with the waitstaff and we know one another by name, but I wouldn't do it with a new person unless we conversed at length.
    – Brian R
    May 23, 2017 at 20:45

For small tips in a Euro zone country I would keep some one and two Euro coins in a separate pocket or wallet compartment. I find them easier to count and handle than bills. For larger tips, a bill is more convenient than a stack of coins.

Don't feel at all awkward. Just hand the porter the money in a matter-of-fact manner. It is just as appropriate to give a porter a tip after they have helped you as it is to thank them. Nothing that needs to be hidden or made into a big deal.

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