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I just took a transatlantic Aer Lingus red-eye flight with my 4-year old. When checking in, the agent gave my child and me seats that were on opposite sides of the plane, separated by about 5 rows. When I asked for adjacent seats she told me that the flight was sold out and I should have paid to reserve them in advance. After a little bit of grumbling, she reseated us next to each other. Are there any rules relating to this? Can I really seat a 4-year old next to innocent strangers and let them, and the flight attendants, deal with the resulting tantrum?

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    Be careful what you ask for. They could totally agree with you and not allow you on the plane at all if there are no adjacent seats left. :) – JamesRyan Apr 13 '15 at 11:59
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    @JamesRyan that is part of the motivation of the question. It seems unfair to sell a pair of tickets, knowing one is a child's ticket, and then say sorry you cannot use these because you did not pay an optional charge. – StrongBad Apr 13 '15 at 14:03
  • @StrongBad It sounds as if you are the one who requested them to be adjacent, not a requirement from the airline. I do not see the airline saying "you cannot use these." – Underminer Apr 16 '18 at 16:54
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    Now with bounty ! – Fattie Jul 25 '18 at 11:01
  • You need seats together--it's not an optional charge in your case. I do agree it's wrong--the airline should simply refuse to sell a ticket to someone that young without the assigned seating. What you're after is unfair in the other direction--you're getting something (sitting together) without paying the price the rest of us pay. – Loren Pechtel Jul 29 '18 at 4:11
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There's no definitive answer to this and it will vary by country and airline.

This is what the UK Civil Aviation Authority says:

http://www.caa.co.uk/default.aspx?catid=2207&pageid=12706

From a safety point of view children (it doesn't specify an age) SHOULD be seated CLOSE to their parent/guardian. The reasons are many but if you imagine a decompression for example, where the oxygen masks deploy, you want someone to be able to fit the mask to the child. Parents may not trust a random stranger to do this for their offspring.

If there was an emergency evacuation, you don't want parents having to move around the aircraft trying to get to their children to ensure they are evacuated etc.

Once the child gets to an age where they are responsible enough to look after themselves in the event of an emergency, then you can consider this to be reasonable. This will vary depending on the child to some extent but perhaps age 12 would be reasonable.

Of course if you have 6 children as we do, you will invariably be separated by at least a row or an aisle, we always try to seat the youngest ones closest.

In the past airlines (at least the ones I've flown with) would always try to seat families together but now that a lot of them charge for reserved seats they are less helpful in this regard.

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    I have an impression airlines purposely assign seats separate so that even adult couples/groups will have more motivation to pay for reserved seats. – rvs Apr 28 '16 at 20:31
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Any person above 2 years must have a seat, but where is that seat? That's something left for common sense and not covered by any policy I am aware of.

Seating policies usually go like "every effort must be made to ensure that families are seated next to each other" and that's it, and as we know, as long as that "effort" costs money, airlines might ignore it! Many airlines make extra money from allowing passengers to reserve seats. They will not implement policies that will add extra responsibilities to them and let them lose some good money.

However, out of personal experience, it will not be that hard to find a passenger who is willing to switch seats to let a mother sit next to her kid. Just give the cabin crew a hint about that and let humanity deal with the rest.

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    Or ask humanity directly if the crew dismisses your request – Maître Peseur Apr 13 '15 at 11:11
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    @AndréPeseur basically you are saying parents can avoid paying seat reservation fees just because they are parents. – chx Sep 10 '15 at 4:57
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    No. That's not what I am saying. I don't know where you get this from – Maître Peseur Sep 10 '15 at 15:20
  • @chx Yes that is possible with some airlines. – Calchas Sep 10 '15 at 17:38
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    @chx However you get a +1 from me because it is very annoying when people ask me to move because they did not make adequate preparations for their own seating. – Calchas Sep 10 '15 at 17:39
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In booking another transatlantic flight with British Airways, there online system is more informative. It says

If you don't pay to choose your seats, British Airways will allocate seats to passengers travelling with children (aged 2-11 years) approximately three days before departure. We aim to seat families together; however where this is not possible children will at least be seated with one adult in the same booking.

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Happens often enough that there appear to be no rules at all about seating children other than not in the exit rows. The airline seat-reservation model certainly has no exceptions for age, but if you call the reservation line they will probably accommodate you next time.

If not, maybe enough of:

Can I really sit a 4 year old next to innocent strangers and let them, and the flight attendants, deal with the resulting tantrum?

will convince the airlines to change things.

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    Could the 4 year old not be escorted off the aircraft before take off to avoid this problem? – Ian Ringrose Sep 28 '15 at 20:10
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In the good old days when I was younger and travel was more .... civilized and less reliant on technology, family seating was a non issue. We were 6 kids and two adults and were all seated together. In fact, the row of seats that had baby bassinet hooks were exclusively reserved for families.

These days, the only rules that airlines absolutely must follow are:

  1. Any person 2 years of age or older has to have separate seats.
  2. Any person deemed unsuitable (due to age, language or other restrictions) cannot be seated in an exit row.

Other than that you are at the mercy of the airline and your fellow passengers. These days I find that it is often cheaper to rely on humanity than to pay for reserved seats.

Another interesting twist on this idea happens often in the Middle East (but I am sure elsewhere as well, since its a Muslim issue) where it is not allowed for women to be seated next to unrelated males.

Some families are very strict about this; others not so. I have seen this often where the poor cabin crew are left to play musical chairs trying to satisfy everyone's needs. This really becomes an issue on full flights (usually during the busy summer season).

So, what can you do to ensure a safe flight for you and your children?

  1. Book as early as possible, to get preferred seats.
  2. Pay for seat selection.
  3. Ask the crew, but ask them once everyone has boarded - try not to create a bottleneck when there is a large queue of people standing in the isle.
  4. Ask the person sitting next to your child. You will find that most people are very understanding. Offer your seat for theirs before asking your neighbor to move.
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In the USA, starting this month, there's new legislation on family seating. Inclusion of the language on family seating in the FAA reauthorization bill comes after similar legislation last year called the Families Flying Together Act of 2015 was introduced. The legislation directs the U.S. Transportation Secretary to look at establishing a policy directing airlines to allow children age 13 or under to sit next to an accompanying family member who is older — at no additional cost. In addition, the TSA can no longer separate parents from their children during screenings.

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    Please, do not start discussion here – VMAtm Jul 9 '17 at 2:37
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  • Does the legislation apply to international airlines flying in and out of the US? – stannius Sep 20 '18 at 22:18
  • So far as I can tell, the legislation only requires airlines to clearly disclose that tickets may not be for adjacent seating, along with the airline's policy on seating families together (see Section 3113). It doesn't actually require families to be seated together. – Michael Seifert Oct 23 '18 at 12:06

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