Just to add some perspective to those who have never worked in the service industry.
Many servers are working for less than minimum wage. This is in part that servers end up making tips. Mind you, they often have to tip out to the bartender who makes drinks, as well as the kitchen.
This means a $100.00 bill for your meal/drinks, ends up requiring that server to give a percentage (most cases it’s 5%-10% depending on support staff, in large restaurants with many support staff it’s almost always 10%) of that cost to the kitchen, busters, expedite, and or bartender.
If you don’t tip 10% to that server, they have to pay out of pocket for each time you do not tip. Meaning that if you only tip 10% on your bill, they break even and make no tips, that being said, 18% actually ends up being only 8% on average in their pocket to take home.
The system is based of total sales of the night as well. So your $100.00 bill at the end of the night might seem minor to you; but if 10 tables rack up $100.00 each and you have no tips for each table, and you have to tip out %10 for each one. It adds up to them paying $100.00 out of their own pocket because of people neglecting and failing to understand the industry policies surrounding tipping.
I’ve been a server for 8 years and this has been well known to me since day one. As unfair as it seems for you to have to tip someone for service that you feel should be obliged. You need to understand that it’s also because of unfair industry standards that we as servers have little control over.
It’s painful to see people who give praise about my level of service, refuse to tip even the bare minimum, and cost me my own money out of pocket for simply doing my job.
If you can’t afford to properly tip a server/bartender, then you should really take a second to ask if you can afford to be dining out/out drinking the first place.
The only people I have ever seen religiously tip servers on or above standard, are those who have been, or are currently in the industry.
This isn’t an insult to us (servers) from those with frustrations on the personal cost to them (the consumer) when it comes to tipping policy.
This is an honest piece of insight to the harsh realities of the people working the industry; that literally waits on you hand and foot; cleans up not only the glasses and plates from your table; but also the spilled drinks, puke, blood, piss; and sometimes, even shit from the floor; who is also legally responsible for your personal health and safety regardless of how irresponsible you behave and what little regard you may have for yourself.
Here’s a tip from a career server to all customers. You can afford to stay home if you have a problem with feeling obligated to tip us. We can’t.
That server who smiled to you and still said “thanks for coming in, get home safe.” Despite loosing money on serving you.