I made a request to book an Airbnb for 2 nights for the Thanksgiving weekend, and the host replied as follows (message via Airbnb):

My current customer extends his stay so the room will be available on Nov 26. If the date works for you, please make a booking using the link below. https://abnb.me/[retracted_ID]. For this room, there is a button for you to cancel, please cancel for your benefit. Sorry for the inconvenience.

Why would an Airbnb host ask me to cancel my request to book their Airbnb, instead of declining that request themselves? E.g., is there some penalties if a host declines booking requests to book too often or let them expire too often?

Example of an expired booking request, as viewed from the guest standpoint:

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    Obligatory scam warning, this is fishy Commented Nov 12, 2022 at 23:44
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    @NicolasFormichella Not necessarily. If a host is trying to get someone to pay via some other means, yes, that's fishy. An existing guest extending a stay is pretty common; the host simply may have forgotten to update their calendar.
    – travelgasm
    Commented Nov 12, 2022 at 23:48
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    So, "scam warning" comment gets to stay, but comments contradicting it don't? If you get in the habit of calling everything you don't understand a possible scam, no one will coming running to help when there really is a wolf.
    – user27701
    Commented Nov 15, 2022 at 16:20
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    The same thing happened to me! After receiving a message from the host I read the rules/guidelines and was aware that the host should be the one cancelling. I called Airbnb and after a number of phone calls with the same customer service representative I received a full refund. I was lucky to find another rental (not on Airbnb) for peak time travel to Spain.
    – Blanca
    Commented Nov 18, 2022 at 1:11
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    @Blanca Sounds like you had a confirmed reservation, not simply a reservation request. Yes, if the host needs to cancel a reservation, then the host must be the one to cancel it. This protects you, the guest, from dishonest hosts protecting a false superhost status, and from unknowingly hitting against the cancellation policy.
    – user27701
    Commented Feb 23, 2023 at 0:20

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Yes, if a guest makes a reservation request or a reservation, there are potential penalties for an Airbnb host declining or cancelling it:

[W]hen Hosts cancel on guests for preventable reasons—like accidentally double-booking or wanting to host friends and family instead—guests lose the confidence to book on Airbnb, and this impacts all Hosts and hurts our entire community... if a Host cancels a reservation for a preventable reason, an updated fee will be deducted from future payouts. The fee depends on the reservation amount and how close to check-in the reservation is canceled.

In this situation, the host probably just forgot to update their calendar on Airbnb after an existing guest extended their stay via another website. The host likely was concerned about how their performance metrics and hosting status could be impacted by declining this double booking.

Double bookings are not uncommon; sometimes they can happen very quickly during peak travel times.

Airbnb can be less than transparent about details sometimes. However, Airbnb makes it clear that:

A Host must promptly cancel a reservation that the Host cannot honor and may not encourage the guest to cancel the reservation.

Accordingly, the host should decline or cancel the booking as quickly as possible to minimize inconvenience to the guest and do their best to promptly update their calendar in the future.

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    @FranckDernoncourt That is a reservation. Believe that the host still has to formally decline that reservation, which could result in a penalty.
    – travelgasm
    Commented Nov 12, 2022 at 23:55
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    As far as I can tell, that is not a reservation. The wording that “you’ll get a response from the host within 24 hours” means this is a reservation request. When you make a request, the host has 24 to approve or decline it. Only if approved does it become a reservation, and then it no longer has the status “pending”. As long as it’s only a request, the cancellation policy does not, as far as I know, apply – that policy is for cancelling, not declining. Commented Nov 13, 2022 at 15:03
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    The preamble to the cancellation policy seems to confirm this: “under certain circumstances, if the Host cancels a confirmed stay reservation, or if the Host is found to be responsible for a cancellation under this Policy, Airbnb may impose fees and other consequences” (emphasis mine). Commented Nov 13, 2022 at 15:08
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    Yes, there are still penalties for declining requests (your acceptance rate may drop, your position in searches may deteriorate, etc.), particularly if you have a pattern of declining requests; I was not disputing that. But you will not automatically have to pay a fee of at least $50 for declining a request the way you do if you cancel a confirmed reservation (and cannot prove that extenuating circumstances or valid reasons). Commented Nov 13, 2022 at 15:36
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    The OP is a potential guest that made a reservation request. The host is under no obligation to accept it and can even block his calendar to prevent instant booking, Further, your quoted Abnb policy is about existing reservations, not mere requests. I'm not confident about the host's reasons, but I'm confident you've called it wrong.
    – user27701
    Commented Nov 13, 2022 at 17:48

There's nothing too unusual here. Apparently the host has instant booking off, or you made a booking request for some other reason1. The host says that actually the dates are unavailable because another guest has extended his stay. If true, the host should have blocked the calendar, but it might not be true and he simply doesn't want to host you. Either way, he's replied "no, it's not available".

As to why the host asked you to cancel, it is likely because the host doesn't want to affect his acceptance rate. Hosts are affected if they do not accept enough requests to book. Host's acceptance rate is a metric important for maintaining superhost status. If you cancel, that doesn't affect the acceptance rate.2 This just might be his habit to curb that problem. On your part, a request has you committed for 24 hours. He could still accept your request and you'd be charged for the stay, then you'd have to depend on the cancellation policy to get your money back. An inquiry leaves you with no commitment.

Just move on and book somewhere else. If you're feeling generous, cancel the request.

  1. Some guests will make requests just to ask for a discount, or to break house rules, like bringing a pet or hosting a party. If this is why you requested, as a host, I'd suggest you take this as a polite "no thank you". I'd further suggest you please stop doing this. It's a little bit rude.

  2. When a host receives a reservation request, he is supposed to accept or decline in the first 24 hours. The acceptance rate is tracked and needs to be above a certain metric. Doing nothing defaults the decline option, and counts against the host's response rate and acceptance rate. Inquiries on the other hand offer the host "pre-approve" and "decline". Neither option is added to any metric, but the response metric still applies. You must have put in a request, not an inquiry, because I don't think you can cancel an inquiry (that wouldn't make sense), and the host can decline an inquiry without penalty.

Footnote: Since I got some static in the comments about the Airbnb policies regarding requests, inquiries, and the host's metrics and when they are affects, here are the relevant support articles from Airbnb.

1. Decline a trip request
2. Respond to an inquiry
3. What are response rate and response time and how are they calculated?
4. Booking inquiries
5. Understanding response rate and acceptance rate Quotes: "A booking request means that the guest is officially asking to book your listing and is waiting for you to accept or decline. As far as your acceptance rate goes, we only measure the final outcome of the booking request, and there are just three possible actions you can take: accept, decline, or let the request time out. If you let a request time out—even if you answer questions but take no action to approve or decline a request within 24 hours—that’s considered a decline." | "if you decline an inquiry, your acceptance rate is not affected" | "low response rates can impact your eligibility for the Superhost program, and acceptance rates can impact eligibility to become a Plus host. And hosts who have very low rates could face penalties, including having their listings paused."

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    Thanks, i made a reservation request. "Decline metrics does affect superhost status": good to know, sounds like that's the reason! Can guests me penalized it cancelling too many reservation requests? Commented Nov 13, 2022 at 23:37
  • Why the downvote on this answer? Please share if something is incorrect. Commented Nov 13, 2022 at 23:59
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    That Airbnb forum post is from 2016. The policies and procedures have changed many times since then. Most recently, on July 22, 2022, Airbnb sent an email to all hosts substantially changing the policy.
    – travelgasm
    Commented Nov 14, 2022 at 0:08
  • @travelgasm thank you. What's the policy change? Commented Nov 14, 2022 at 0:17
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    Possible explanation of the downvotes is that this answer essentially says "there's no penalty to decline a request apart from the possible penalty on superhost status". That's confusing. Commented Nov 15, 2022 at 13:40

I had a host ask me to cancel because he didn't realize it was for 1 night and he doesn't like to accept 1 night reservations. I told him that he shouldn't have accepted it, then. I called airbnb and they told me the hosts get charged $50 for every cancelation on their end. I asked what if I don't cancel on my end? And they said that the booking stands. I asked well, what if they don't let me enter the premises on the date of the booking? They said the host would be dropped from Airbnb, then. But I didn't trust the host to not leave me stranded so I canceled, anyway. I stick to strictly hotels now.

  • currently the penalty for cancellation by the host is on the Airbnb platform 10% of the booking value
    – Vickel
    Commented Nov 20, 2022 at 16:14
  • This is not an answer to the question asked. Just FUD generated from a single bad experience.
    – user27701
    Commented Feb 23, 2023 at 0:25

It's simple. A Host cannot decline too many requests even if IB is turned off. After 5 declined requests Airbnb sends you a warning. Your listing is deactivated if you refuse too many bookings. "Request to book" can be annoying if you're a guest. You wait a maximum of 24 hours to get a yes or no answer, and that might have a negative impact on the platform credibility. Airbnb prefers IB by default. If the guest withdraws the request the host is not affected.


The host could have resolved this much easier by just blocking one day of your reservation attempt (I'm taking it is a reservation attempt as by your comment here: it doesn't show up as reserved in my account. I only made a booking request: https://i.sstatic.net/yLKB0.png)

The platform would then show the reservation as "Not Possible"

To answer your question, why would the host not decline himself?

  • not aware of above
  • fearing to lose the Superhost Status: "To meet this criteria, cancel fewer than 1% of your reservations of the last 4 trimesters"
  • fearing to fail Basic Requirements: "Accepted Reservations Target 88%"
  • avoiding the penalty for cancellation, which is currently 10% of the booking value

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