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My family is taking a trip to the Bahamas and have invited my son and me, both US citizens living in the US. My son is 10 years old, and his father has not had contact with him in 8 years. Before that it was very sporadic—maybe a couple times a year for the first 2 years of his life. He is on the birth certificate, but we have never gone to court for custody agreement, child support, etc., so I don’t have a custody agreement from the court.

His father never really had an interest in being around after my son was born. He is very transient and never stays in the same place for long. I have no idea where/how to find him and never had contact with any family for me to reach out. I have even paid for a month of a service to find background information such as last known address, arrest records, and such to try to see if I could find him that way, but it was unhelpful.

How would I go about getting a passport for my son so that we can attend the vacation with the rest of our family?

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    Assuming the US for my answer, but you should specify which country.
    – Esther
    Commented Oct 19, 2022 at 18:15
  • Do you know how to contact the father? Commented Oct 20, 2022 at 7:19
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    We were not married and he just up and left without a way to contact him because he didn’t want to be contacted. I’ve never had an issue that I’ve needed him for. Thanks for the helpful response, have a great day! Commented Oct 20, 2022 at 22:07
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    Also, yes the US, sorry I’m not sure why I didn’t include that. And no way to contact him. I have paid for a month of a service to find background information such as last known address, arrest records and such to try to see if I can find him that way and it was unhelpful. Commented Oct 20, 2022 at 22:09
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    It would seem to make sense for you to apply for sole custody of the child, and thus prevent issues like this in the future. Commented Aug 14, 2023 at 0:05

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According to travel.state.gov, if one of the parents can not be contacted, you would need to fill out a Form DS-5525 “Statement of Exigent/Special Family Circumstances." This form requires you to provide all the information you have about your son's father, as well as all of the ways you have tried contacting him and what the results were. Filling out this form does not guarantee that you will be able to get a passport for your son; whoever processes the applications will use the information to provide in order to determine whether or not to accept the application.

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Like the earlier answer, I assume you and your son are US citizens.

While the earlier answer is correct that filling out the DS-5525 doesn't guarantee a passport will be issued for your son, going a bit deeper reveals more information. This additional information makes applying for a child's passport in your circumstances both more complicated and more difficult.

First, this State Department passport page is titled "Children Under 16." This page lists various requirements for obtaining passports for kids under 16. One of the requirements is "Show Parental Consent." That Section contains this text:

Both parents/guardians must authorize the issuance of the child's passport. The best way to do this is for both parents/guardians to go with the child in person to apply for the passport. [Emphasis in original]

What if both parents/guardians cannot appear in person?

If...

The cited page then lists four possible explanations for "both parents cannot appear."

The first explanation is you have "sole legal authority" over the child. This explanation isn't available to you because the father is shown on the child's birth certificate, and is still living. Therefore, you do not at this point have "sole legal authority."

The usual way to obtain "sole legal authority" is for a court to adjudicate a divorce/dissolution of the marriage, and order that you have sole legal authority over the child.

Because you and the father never married, acquiring this authority will require filing a petition or complaint in state court, having court papers served on the father, and obtaining an order or judgment from the court. How long this might take and what it might cost depend on factors not under your control: e.g., how the father might be located or served with court process if he cannot be found, how he might react to the filing, how his attorney (if he has or obtains one) responds to the action, and/or the congestion of the court's calendar. This is likely to take at least months, and may take several years.

While the father is still living, a state court proceeding will be necessary to obtain sole legal authority over your son. That will be a different process than a marriage dissolution, but will aim at the same result.

The second explanation is one parent cannot appear. With a cooperative but non-appearing parent, the applying parent must obtain and submit a DS-3053 "Statement of Consent," in which the non-appearing parent agrees in writing to the issuance of a passport, signs the DS-3053 in front of a notary public, and provides suitable identification which will be copied by the notary and the copy provided to you. In some countries, the notarization must occur at a US embassy or US consulate.

The third explanation is you cannot locate the other parent. This requires (as noted in the earlier answer) that you complete DS-5525 "Statement of Exigent/Special Family Circumstances."

The circumstances supporting a finding of Exigency/Special circumstances are listed in in the form itself. The form says:

  • Exigent Circumstance: Your request may qualify as an exigent circumstance if there is a time-sensitive emergency, and the inability of the child to obtain a passport would jeopardize the child's health or welfare and safety or would result in the child being separated from the rest of his or her traveling party.

  • Special Family Circumstance: Your request may qualify as a special family circumstance if the child's family situation makes it exceptionally difficult or impossible for one or both child’s parents/legal guardians to provide the notarized, written statement of consent.

I think it's very unlikely that temporary family separation arising from a vacation would be deemed a "time-sensitive emergency" or "exigent." The lack of a legal proceeding determining custody and control, which could have been done years ago and is commonly accomplished when parents separate or one parent withdraws, is unlikely to be convincing as a "Special Family Circumstance."

The fourth explanation is "neither parent is able to appear." A passport application can be made by a third person (not either parent) when both parents have signed a DS-3053 "Statement of Consent."

All in all, only the third explanation might apply, and I think your likelihood of success is small. Assuming you're on good terms with the family, you could also delay or avoid traveling overseas.

This problem will ease when your son is 16, as from age 16 only one parent need participate in the passport application; the State Dept webpage that discusses this is here, look for the section titled "4. Show Parental Awareness." When your your son is 18 years old, he can apply for a passport on his own. Before that, consider filing a state court action seeking sole legal authority, and following that court process through to judgment.

At this juncture, a family vacation within the 50 United States seems more doable.

Finally, if you elect to fly with your son, know that airlines and the authorities are sometimes or often very sensitive about preventing possible child abduction. Thus, both the airline and TSA may want to see a document signed by the non-present parent that gives permission for your son to travel with you, or from a court awarding you sole legal authority. They might not ask...but if either does ask and you don't have such a document, the sanction is significant: even with a reservation, your son won't be flying.

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    The recommendation to gain sole legal custody seems especially pertinent, especially as the son gets older and more things will need to be signed for. It won't be a quick process and probably won't be cheap, but it seems that it will be faster and less expensive in the long run than dealing with issues like this for the next 8 years.
    – FreeMan
    Commented Oct 20, 2022 at 15:42
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    @Bobson and JonH: Thanks for bringing up this factual case. I expanded the "First Explanation" answer to include the situation of a deceased parent. Commented Oct 20, 2022 at 20:56
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    Sorry we are in the US, never married. I read this information, I just wondering if anyone had a similar situation and experience so I’m not paying the application fee to be turned down. I plan on filling out the special circumstances form. We were together a few years and it was abusive. When I got pregnant it got a little better but not much and when my son was born it started getting worse so I left. I wanted to let him be in the child’s life but he only did so when he wanted to use him as a manipulation tactic. He eventually left. Thank you for taking the time to answer my question. Commented Oct 20, 2022 at 22:21
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    People aged 16 or 17 only require one parent to acknowledge their US passport application, so he would not have to wait until 18 to get one if your application now is denied.
    – artemist
    Commented Oct 21, 2022 at 3:31
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    @Eric This is an international flight. From your link: Consent Forms: Unlike domestic flights, you can’t take your child on an international flight without the presence or permission of their other parent or legal guardian. In fact, even if you’re flying together, it’s a good idea for you each to carry signed and notarized consent forms in case you get separated. Again, there’s no official consent form, but you can use any signed and notarized consent letter such as our Child Travel Consent Form.
    – Esther
    Commented Oct 21, 2022 at 16:28
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You need to talk with a lawyer, because some of the advice that is being given here is highly inaccurate. For example, birth certificates do not necessarily guarantee that dad has any powers. In my state (and I am a licensed attorney here) a man's name on a birth certificate doesn't mean anything legally at all because a mom can just add whoever they want to the birth certificate. In order for a father, who was and is not married to the mom at the time of conception and birth, to obtain any legal rights to the child he has to go to court and file a petition for adjudication of paternity OR him and mom have to agree to file an "Acknowledgment of Paternity" with the State's vital statistics unit.

A quick consult ($150-$200 usually, but sometimes you can get one for free) with a family attorney in your area will give you the answers relevant to your State of residence. Do this ASAP as it can take a while to get into an attorney's schedule.

(Family attorneys deal with this issue often enough that they should be able to ask you all of the relevant questions and get enough information from you to let you know right then and there if you need to do anything special; their intake process should ask you to gather what documentation they need to give you an answer).

(And it goes without saying that I am not your attorney and am not agreeing to be your attorney by anything I have said above. The above information is general advice and -as stated above- you need to go talk with a family lawyer licensed in your state to get an answer based upon your local law and specific facts associated with your case)

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  • Thank you very much Commented Oct 22, 2022 at 0:28
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In the UK, anyone with parental responsibility can apply for a passport for a child. There is a requirement to provide the names of both parents (where known), but there is no requirement for the absent parent to give consent. In cases where the child is fostered, adopted, or otherwise has parental responsibility assigned to another person (such as grandparents), there is not even a requirement for either parent to consent; it only needs one person with parental responsibility to apply.

Getting a passport and getting to travel are two different things though. You require the consent of all people with parental responsibility if you want to travel abroad with a child, or (for trips of less than 28 days) you need a child arrangement order from a court stating that the child should live with you.

In practise I've been abroad several times with my son and have never been asked about this, never mind being stopped for a letter. But as a matter of course, I do let my ex-wife know when and where we're going on holiday, and I've got her contact details so that anyone who wants to check can do so.

In your case, getting a court order to officially state that the child lives only with you would seem to be in order. You can then spend up to 28 days abroad with your child without any further issues. This court order can also solve many similar problems in future, by legally establishing where the child lives and whether the father has any right to contact them. You've then guaranteed that the father can't rock up at random and insist to see them.

(Edit: I see the question has been changed since I answered, to say that this is the US. Fair enough, but the answer can stay in place for reference.)

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