This question is just about Malay culture and food. I know Indian and Chinese Malaysian food culture and etiquette probably varies, and I have more experience with those, so trying to keep this question focused.
I know muslims do not eat with their left hand and I know Malays sometimes eat with their fingers. I'm not sure if that even includes using cutlery/silverware with your left hand. I'm not sure if they actually take offence at non-Muslims or foreigners using both hands in Malay eateries.
Some things I've read or seen on the internet make it seem like even cutlery in the left hand is out but I've seen Malays use fork in one hand and spoon in the other.
Two extremely popular Malay foods are ayam (chicken) and ikan bakar (grilled fish). Always served on the bone in my experience. Nothing I can find online covers eating these, which to me are less amenable to eating with cutlery.
I assume Malays are not into wasting food so would get the very most from their chicken and fish. I can imagine how people could become skilled at stripping the flesh from the bones on fish. I've always been terrible at it so I'm a very messy eater of fish. It's harder to imagine being able to get everything from chicken with just fork and spoon. Do Malays pick up their chicken in their right hand? I hate watching people eat but tried to observe and didn't notice anyone doing this.
- Do Malays eat fried/grilled chicken and fish only with cutlery or also with right hand fingers?
- Is it rude for outsiders to eat with both hands when Malay Muslims are around?
- Do Malays manage to get all the protein from fish and chicken using cutlery or is it OK to waste what's hard to get off?
- Does the rule about not eating with your left hand only mean directly or also using cutlery in your left hand?