I'm a tunisian citizen, I'm 21 years old and I'm a student. I do not have a job - in my country you get one at age around 24 after finishing your studies. But I do have a source of money.

I am going to apply for a German short visa to visit my girlfriend. We've been together for about 5 years now but we never met because of her parents they would like to see me first. That's why I'm applying for visa. I have no intention to stay in Germany or get a job there.

I would like just to spend a week with her to meet her and her parents. I had a tumor before but I do thank god i survived from it and she was the only person that helped me going through it. So my question is if there is a way to help me get their trust. Again I'm not a criminal I would never do something illegal or get her in trouble.

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    We don't know why the visa application was denied. Posting a copy of the refusal letter (with personal information blacked out) might help generate useful answers. Jul 24, 2019 at 13:34
  • No sir, I did not apply yet but i will in about a week
    – Pacman DD
    Jul 24, 2019 at 13:36
  • David, they said the reason wasnt clear or convincing but i did say the truth
    – Pacman DD
    Jul 24, 2019 at 13:39
  • How long does your course of studies have left? Jul 24, 2019 at 13:46
  • You probably can call me the luckiest guy or the opposite, like i mentioned that i had a tumor and i was trying to survive and with that i had to waste some years old study so im a bit behind. my plan is to finish university but i still have years left. i know im not luckiest guy out there
    – Pacman DD
    Jul 24, 2019 at 13:53

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Unfortunately for you, you fit almost exactly the pattern of people that German immigration will be concerned about. You have no job; you have a relationship which is purely long distance; you seem to have few ties to your home country; you come from a country that many people try to leave and migrate to Europe. You look to them very like the kind of person who will come to Germany and then fail to leave. It unfortunately doesn't matter whether you are that kind of person, if you look like that kind of person they will deny you a visa. Simply promising to abide by the rules will not affect your application.

The most problematic item is your relationship. A five year relationship where you have never met the other person is unusual, especially if you were both sixteen when it started. Regardless of whether it is a genuine relationship, it sounds fake to the immigration officials, and that will likely cause them to refuse you a visa.

Your best immediate way of solving this problem is to abandon your plans to come to Germany, and instead meet with your girlfriend and/or her parents in Tunisia. German citizens will have no problem visiting Tunisia, and this will let your girlfriend and her parents see you in your home, and meet some of your family also. Doing this not only removes the need for you to travel to Germany, but also adds credibility to your relationship with your girlfriend, which will help future applications. Meeting her in some other country, such as Turkey, would work as well.

Continuing to apply after having been turned down, without a significant change in your circumstances, is only going to make matters worse for you. You need to do something to demonstrate that your relationship is genuine and that you have ties to your home country.

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    Once again, your girlfriend's parents cannot prevent her visiting Tunisia. If she is telling you "my parents won't let me go" then you might want to consider the possibility that she actually doesn't want to visit you, but doesn't want to tell you. Jul 24, 2019 at 14:03
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    You have never met her or her parents. But that's none of my business. The point is you have essentially no chance of getting a visa based on your current situation. Jul 24, 2019 at 14:23
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    Unfortunately, as @DJClayworth stated in his answer...your chances of getting a visa right now are practically 0 given your current status. Your personal situation would have to change (finish our studies, full time job, etc.) in order for you to get that visa.
    – ar5975
    Jul 24, 2019 at 15:11
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    Ask the parents of the girl to visit a country you can travel to without visa troubles and meet them there. Turkey is a good one for people from Germany as there are many relatively cheap flights.
    – Willeke
    Jul 24, 2019 at 16:41
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    @Pacman DD If you’ve never met her parents you don’t ‘know them’, and some people would say you don’t ‘know’ your girlfriend either (or even have a girlfriend) if you’ve never met in person, despite a history going back 5 years. The advice to ask your online friend and her parents to meet you in a neutral country that’s easy for everyone to get to is good advice. If she still says no, it’s not possible, then best re-think the ‘relationship’. If she says yes, good luck, I hope it works out for you.
    – Traveller
    Jul 24, 2019 at 16:55

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