Timeline for How can I deal with people asking to switch seats with me on a plane?
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| Jun 3, 2016 at 4:55 | comment | added | its_me | I'd say, "Oh, sorry, I actually swapped my seat with that guy." (Point finger randomly, don't be specific/clear.) This should do it. | |
| Jun 14, 2015 at 15:52 | answer | added | Be Kind To New Users | timeline score: 3 | |
| Jun 13, 2015 at 13:32 | answer | added | Peter | timeline score: 1 | |
| Jun 10, 2015 at 15:28 | comment | added | Allen Gould | Vedant Chandra I wouldn't feel bad about calling an attendant - you're just helping out the fellow who needs a new seat. You'd love to help, but you have good and sufficient reason to need the seat you have. (And once they start touching your stuff, then it really is time to bring in the authorities.) | |
| Jun 10, 2015 at 12:38 | comment | added | Panzercrisis | You said they're rude to you in the process. This ceases any need to be "submissive" or particularly respectful while declining. Tell them "no" very clearly (yet unabusively), and if they won't leave you alone, tell staff that you're being harassed by the other passenger and have them deal with them. | |
| Jun 10, 2015 at 9:41 | comment | added | Vedant Chandra | @JoeBlow Oh me neither, two incidents happened on international flights and one was on a trans-UK flight. (UK-Scotland flight for those who insist). | |
| Jun 10, 2015 at 9:21 | comment | added | Vedant Chandra | @QuoraFeans It has happened to me on at least five occasions in the last four years. I travel quite often but you can imagine, it's quite a lot. | |
| Jun 10, 2015 at 9:15 | comment | added | phresnel | @JoeBlow: Do you have a lot of experience in India flights? I can assure you that people will usually have a bigger mouth and are more "brave" against minors here in Germany, too. It's an old mammal thing: Whom you are afraid of, you molest not. People who typically shy away from everything and have no backbone suddenly become poor a**holes when they think they are superior. There's the "bedeutungsschwanger" ("pregnant with meaning") in German to describe their sudden urge to impose alpha males/females or importance. | |
| Jun 9, 2015 at 21:51 | comment | added | Renae Lider | "I've had it with these motherfu*king snakes on this..." or you could just pull out your sunglasses, and say "deal with it" after you slowly put it on.. | |
| Jun 9, 2015 at 17:47 | answer | added | user8803 | timeline score: 26 | |
| Jun 9, 2015 at 16:08 | answer | added | Adam Davis | timeline score: 19 | |
| Jun 9, 2015 at 14:13 | answer | added | nsn | timeline score: 3 | |
| Jun 9, 2015 at 13:46 | answer | added | Mark Daniel Johansen | timeline score: 5 | |
| Jun 9, 2015 at 13:27 | answer | added | InFlightEntertainment | timeline score: 4 | |
| Jun 9, 2015 at 2:20 | comment | added | DA. | You bought a seat. Treat it like anything you've purchased that someone else asked for. "Can I have that iPhone you paid for?". I know it's hard to say no to people that ask...but realize that's why people ask...they know it's hard for some people to say no. Realize that they are perfectly expecting some to say 'no' and will just go on to the next person. | |
| Jun 8, 2015 at 14:23 | history | edited | hippietrail |
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| Jun 8, 2015 at 14:18 | answer | added | paul | timeline score: 9 | |
| Jun 7, 2015 at 18:17 | answer | added | gnasher729 | timeline score: 5 | |
| Jun 7, 2015 at 6:08 | answer | added | user4188 | timeline score: 3 | |
| Jun 7, 2015 at 5:52 | comment | added | Fattie | I agree with Quora's question. I doubt you are constantly asked. | |
| Jun 7, 2015 at 5:37 | answer | added | Fattie | timeline score: 30 | |
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| Jun 6, 2015 at 16:12 | answer | added | Quando Sumus | timeline score: 17 | |
| Jun 6, 2015 at 0:12 | answer | added | Berit Larsen | timeline score: 7 | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 23:41 | history | tweeted | twitter.com/#!/StackTravel/status/606969053639524352 | ||
| Jun 5, 2015 at 23:19 | answer | added | psubsee2003 | timeline score: 11 | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 22:17 | comment | added | Quora Feans | Can you maybe explain why you are "constantly asked"? I understand that it could happen once in 100 trips, but fail to see a reason that this happens constantly to anyone. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 20:42 | answer | added | user45623 | timeline score: 25 | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 19:06 | comment | added | Spehro 'speff' Pefhany | If a couple repetitions of a polite no does not work tell them to get lost in English or Hindi. I always play-act great offence when some ne'er-do-well touches my property for their own benefit (squeegee kids come to mind)-- in no way should you tolerate that any more than you would tolerate them touching your body. Act angry, don't get angry, and (at least in my culture) swearing means the other person wins (especially in a family environment), but you can certainly raise your voice in righteous indignation. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 18:22 | comment | added | Vedant Chandra | @Formagella And he was travelling with his wife and child! (seated in a different part of the plane, but they saw the exchange). | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 18:08 | comment | added | Formagella | I guess the fact that you're in India changes the cultural context a bit, in Europe nobody would dare to ask someone to switch to a reserved seat near the toilet (noisy) just because they're younger and especially insist on it and even touch your stuff. I would burst out in laughter at such a proposal, that man had no self-respect. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 16:55 | answer | added | Count Iblis | timeline score: -1 | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 15:55 | comment | added | user428517 | it can be tough to do, but just don't worry about it. say "no", and put some headphones on or something. no one has a right to your seat, and you don't have to give it up if you don't want to. that's all there is to it. if someone has a problem with that, it's not your problem. you paid for your seat. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 15:36 | answer | added | edocetirwi | timeline score: 20 | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 15:22 | answer | added | SpaceDog | timeline score: 91 | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 15:13 | answer | added | n00b | timeline score: 27 | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:59 | comment | added | Vedant Chandra |
@JoErNanO Physical abuse is a tantalising option when a grown man incessantly tells you that his toilet-adjacent seat is "very good I assure, come come I switch" and proceeds to pick up your backpack. In that particular case I did call the flight attendant, and deliver unto this man some choice words. I live in India, a land of many wonders. Unfortunately, basic courtesy is not common.
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| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:55 | comment | added | JoErNanO♦ |
Physical abuse is most definitely not the answer. No, on the other hand, is.
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| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:53 | vote | accept | Vedant Chandra | ||
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:52 | answer | added | Nean Der Thal | timeline score: 47 | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:50 | comment | added | Willeke♦ | If you feel pressed in changing with them to a seat which is not to your liking, they are bothering you. And if a simple NO is not enough to get them to move on, you are in your rights to call for a flight attendant. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:32 | comment | added | CGCampbell | I would point out that in many places of the world, a sixteen year old isn't a child. He (or she) may be a minor, but not a child. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:29 | answer | added | CGCampbell | timeline score: 170 | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:27 | comment | added | Vedant Chandra | I personally feel very rude by involving the flight attendant @JonathanReez. Especially in cases where they aren't really bothering me, they're just being impolite in asking me to change with them. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:26 | comment | added | JonathanReez♦ | Call the flight attendant and ask her to help the passenger that is bothering you. | |
| Jun 5, 2015 at 14:24 | history | asked | Vedant Chandra | CC BY-SA 3.0 |